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Lex
15 Aug 2006, 22:09
I am in a particularly bad girl situation myself. There are many girls "on the go" for me, but if I court them all simultaneously (and I really want to), trouble could arise. Please note that I am very sexual and if you have a problem with that, don't read this post. :p

Katie Jones is an English girl who lives in London, England. I have known her for several years now. She has the most perfect personality to suit mine. She's intelligent, articulate, has a beautiful south-English accent, doesn't mind my sexuality at all, is very straight-forward with what she says (no mysterious mind-reading-expectation games). She's also quite lovely in physical form, though she does have some physical quirks. I have not met her in person, though we have had many webcam/voice conversations. I imagine she would be wondrous to meet. The biggest problem is that I live across an ocean for her.

Sonia Laposi is a Romanian girl who has been my friend for several years, and I have always had a crush on her; possibly because she's remarkably sexy. Her personality is very intriguing and alluring, though some parts of it make me want to avoid it for now. There's much more complex analyzation I could do here, but I don't have time to write so much about Sonia for now. However, she told me pretty recently, "You are the ultra-sex. I have always liked how you touched me." That alone makes me desire her an extreme amount.

Sapir is a girl from Israel who I have known for several years and has a deep, powerful connection with me. There is no other girl like her I've ever met. She is shy while also being bold and highly opinionated. She has shown me her most personal of thoughts, which are very intense. She's highly intriguing. She always asks me when I'm going to visit Israel. Of course, with the war going on, I wouldn't want to go now. Maybe she'd like to move out of Israel eventually; perhaps to Ontario, Canada? ;)

Kristen Rittinger is a girl I have never met in person, but goes to a high school in my city that I used to go to. I have seen pictures of her, and talked to her extensively for a few months. One night, I was feeling rather randy and asked her if she wanted to go on a sexual adventure with me. Her response was: she would love to, I've never met her (to which I responded that it would make it all-the-more adventurous), she couldn't that night, but she was all pumped and ready to go for it! We planned it for another night 4 days later at 02:00. After we planned that, she had to go and said we would finalize the plans and suchlike later. I assumed it would work out wondrously, but she never came online in the next 4 days, she never showed up at the planned time, and I had cancelled a camping trip to see her. That was two weeks ago and I still haven't been able to talk to her since. I'm rather worried about what might have happened to her. Hmm.

Yes, there are more girls. :/ My situation is sort of ridiculous. I don't really know how I got myself into this situation. In mid-July, I broke up with my wonderful girlfriend, Rebecca, because she and I were growing apart due to my having so much work to do on my new home, being addicted to worming, starting my new job, and her living a 1.5-hour drive (or bus ride) from me. We weren't being able to see each other often enough.

Anyway, in the past two weeks, five (yes, five) new girls have appeared in my life. It's really ridiculous. These aren't just friend-types, either. These are girls who have very-obviously flirted with me. I feel like Don Juan. My favourite new girl is Kait, who is pristinely connective with me. She lives very close to me, has a delicious intelligence, and is physically gorgeous. I am not going to bother describing the other girls I've met, though I fancy them all, really. If I describe them, it may make it harder for me to choose between them!

Anyway, this would be in the positive events thread if I didn't have to choose a girl and "just be friends" with the rest, and if I wasn't already in love (Yes, you read that right. I love her. That means love with the feeling of belonging together and willingness to spend the rest of my life together.) with my ex-girlfriend, Madeleine. She's unavailable, though, which is really heartbreaking.

Pierre (Yes, a male. His real name is Michael, though most of his friends don't know that.) is the most difficult-to-describe relationship I have ever been in. There is no other boy I have been attracted to. He is famous among people in this city who are around my age due to his intense personality. He's my hero and the hardest person to be around simultaneously. I have known him for longer than any of his friends have known him (more than five years) and we got into the relationship in a very obscure way. He visits me any time of the day or night, tapping on my window to let him in. He is the person who introduced me to my own life; music, sociality, etc. There's too much to write about him here. I continue a relationship with him despite any relationships I have with girls. He and I have an understanding that nothing affects our relationship, because it is so deeply-rooted within us. I am sure I will know him for decades.

I am thinking that Kait is my choice of girl to pursue, because she and I seem to work well together in conversation. I don't ever want to be in a relationship with guessing games again, and Kait feels the same way.

My love life is so crazy. I bet no wormer ever expected such a thing from silly, insane Lex.

worMatty
15 Aug 2006, 22:24
Lex, I think that deserves its own thread, seriously. Would you agree to one of the mods doing that?

Slick
15 Aug 2006, 22:27
Well hows that for life. Lex gets the sex and slick wacks the - I hope everything works out eventually Lex. Multirelationships are very stressful.

Paul.Power
15 Aug 2006, 23:00
London, EnglandI'm sorry, I know it's a thoroughly daft thing to pick up on and I feel slightly ashamed pointing it out but... argh, that phrase annoys me.

To quote Bill Bryson, "'London? Now let's see, is that in Nebraska?'"

Yes, I know I have Swansea, Wales in my location line. Swansea is only a small city. Much as I'm not particularly fond of it despite being born there, London is rather larger. Although I shouldn't be berating Lex: after all, he's just pointed out that he knows where London is - it's the idea of a culture that demands people tack ", England" onto London or ", France" onto Paris or something similar any other major world city.

Ahem. Sorry, silly rant over. Anyway, blimey. Good luck sorting that out.

AndrewTaylor
16 Aug 2006, 00:37
I'm sorry, I know it's a thoroughly daft thing to pick up on and I feel slightly ashamed pointing it out but... argh, that phrase annoys me.

To quote Bill Bryson, "'London? Now let's see, is that in Nebraska?'"

Yes, I know I have Swansea, Wales in my location line. Swansea is only a small city. Much as I'm not particularly fond of it despite being born there, London is rather larger. Although I shouldn't be berating Lex: after all, he's just pointed out that he knows where London is - it's the idea of a culture that demands people tack ", England" onto London or ", France" onto Paris or something similar any other major world city.

Ahem. Sorry, silly rant over. Anyway, blimey. Good luck sorting that out.
I think it's in no small part because it's a culture that can't come up with its own names for towns. There's at least one London in America. It's on a river called the Thames. (Although I'd not be suprised if they pronounced it "fames".

Oh, and Lex, if you can't handle an hour and a half drive then... well, where exactly do you think Israel is?

SupSuper
16 Aug 2006, 00:42
Wow, that's a long post. Novel-worthy, even. And quite a CLASH with the type of drama we get around here.

I'd say, pick whoever you have more chances of having a successful relationship with. Whoever's closer, whoever you can spend more time with, etc. Though I suspect that's easier said than done, but it's not everyday I find a Don Juan online. :p

Star Worms
16 Aug 2006, 01:19
I'm sorry, I know it's a thoroughly daft thing to pick up on and I feel slightly ashamed pointing it out but... argh, that phrase annoys me.

To quote Bill Bryson, "'London? Now let's see, is that in Nebraska?'"

Yes, I know I have Swansea, Wales in my location line. Swansea is only a small city. Much as I'm not particularly fond of it despite being born there, London is rather larger. Although I shouldn't be berating Lex: after all, he's just pointed out that he knows where London is - it's the idea of a culture that demands people tack ", England" onto London or ", France" onto Paris or something similar any other major world city.

Ahem. Sorry, silly rant over. Anyway, blimey. Good luck sorting that out.

There's a London in Canada too.

Lex
16 Aug 2006, 01:47
Lex, I think that deserves its own thread, seriously. Would you agree to one of the mods doing that?I would appreciate that a lot, actually. I have so much to say, and cluttering up this thread would be bad. So, yes, this an official request to move these posts into a new thread.Well hows that for life. Lex gets the sex and slick wacks the - I hope everything works out eventually Lex. Multirelationships are very stressful.Agreed. It can be fun, but it is certainly very hard to handle at times. I really don't like to be unethical and court many girls simultaneously, but I also really love girls. I do know the feeling of not being able to flirt with a girl I fancy, too, though, and that was most common with me when I was 15 years old. I was the nerd who couldn't talk to a girl if I tried. I'd choke and sputter all the time. I still do, but I have bursts of confidence which make up for it.I'm sorry, I know it's a thoroughly daft thing to pick up on and I feel slightly ashamed pointing it out but... argh, that phrase annoys me.

To quote Bill Bryson, "'London? Now let's see, is that in Nebraska?'"

Yes, I know I have Swansea, Wales in my location line. Swansea is only a small city. Much as I'm not particularly fond of it despite being born there, London is rather larger. Although I shouldn't be berating Lex: after all, he's just pointed out that he knows where London is - it's the idea of a culture that demands people tack ", England" onto London or ", France" onto Paris or something similar any other major world city.I made the distinction particularly because I have had two girlfriends (Michelle and Rebecca) who live in London, Ontario, Canada. If I had simply said London, it is likely that I could be misinterpreted by an Ontarian to have meant London, Ontario, especially since Kitchener (my city) is a mere 1.5-hour drive from there.

Oh, and Lex, if you can't handle an hour and a half drive then... well, where exactly do you think Israel is?Yes, well, that visit would be a much longer-term thing, I'm sure, or part of some elaborate tour of Europe.Wow, that's a long post. Novel-worthy, even. And quite a CLASH with the type of drama we get around here.Is it? I haven't read much of what you guys have written in this thread, to be honest. I assumed it was quite deep, like this. I will read some more.

I like the multi-quote feature a lot.

I forgot to mention that I adore my best friend of 7 years, Ashley Jurden. I should just let go of the notion that I could have her. It's hard to let go. It's hard not to sound like a prrrrrick when you're talking about courting many girls, too. :/

Vader
16 Aug 2006, 03:05
It's hard to let go. It's hard not to sound like a prrrrrick when you're talking about courting many girls, too. :/

Well, yeah. It would be. That's because it's dishonest and underhand.

Lex
16 Aug 2006, 04:02
That would be true if I was being dishonest or underhand about any of it. I do not withhold information. In fact, a lot of my discussions with my fancied girls have recently been about relationships and what's been happening, intermixed with other things.

I do not have any sort of plot to try to get into serious relationships with more than one girl, and do not want to hurt their feelings at all! I think your comment was a little unfair and presumptuous. I actually do not want to be in a situation where I am "handling" many people. I just want one girl to love.

MtlAngelus
16 Aug 2006, 07:41
Lex gets the sex and slick wacks the -
Lol.

And Lex, that is deep.
I can't give much of an advice in this case either, as pointed out before I'm horrible with any kind of relation.
Mostly to do with the fact that I seem to hate having to speak, it's sometimes even irritating to have to say something. I usually try to get my way around by just nodding or using some kind of body language. :-/
edit: and yet I work on the phone all day :p

AndrewTaylor
16 Aug 2006, 09:30
I would appreciate that a lot, actually. I have so much to say, and cluttering up this thread would be bad. So, yes, this an official request to move these posts into a new thread.
That is done. If you want to pick a title for it just email me.

Vader
16 Aug 2006, 16:17
Lex, if you only want one girl to love then stop chasing the tail. Pick a girl (or guy) and stick with them.

It's not fair to yourself or anyone involved to do anything else.

In England we call people like you "slags". No matter how much emotion you hide behind you are still being an utter slag.

Lex
16 Aug 2006, 18:10
You don't seem to understand. I'm at the point of choosing, and I'm not "chasing tail". I don't want to have to explain myself to you.

Call me what you will, but I'm going to regard you as quite ignorant and/or closed-minded if you continue what you're doing.

I was really hoping I could post my problems without being insulted for having them.

MtlAngelus
16 Aug 2006, 19:05
There's always gonna be someone who will make harsh comments about your problems, you can choose to ignore them or try to take the best from them.
In any case, I don't think there's anything wrong in your situation, it happens to a lot of people, and it's just a consequence of human nature.
It also sounds to me like some of this girls may just be flirting for the fun of it, I think you should see which ones have honest intentions of taking the relationship far, and if there's several of them, make a decision fast or it might end up bad.
Then again, I'm not good at this stuff so.:p

Vader
16 Aug 2006, 20:19
You don't seem to understand. I'm at the point of choosing, and I'm not "chasing tail". I don't want to have to explain myself to you.

Call me what you will, but I'm going to regard you as quite ignorant and/or closed-minded if you continue what you're doing.

I was really hoping I could post my problems without being insulted for having them.

The impression your first post gave was that you were seeing multiple people at once. Maybe I read too much into it. Erm, you're doing the right thing, I think. I'm not sure now. *butts out*

Lex
16 Aug 2006, 21:34
Vader, I truly respect you for your ability to show humility. Humility is one of the most difficult virtues to master. Thank you very much. Wow, I love this forum. :)

Angel, that's good advice, I'd say! Yeah, you're right that some of these girls are probably just flirty by nature and are not serious about it. I should start analyzing which girls I should start thinking of as merely friends and seperate them in my mind from those who seriously like me, romantically. Also, I should probably drop (from the list of those I would consider for a romantic relationship) those who I only find sexy but don't think much of their intelligence, etc.

Maybe I can get into a reasonable situation where I'm happy and not on an emotional roller coaster.

Vader
16 Aug 2006, 21:57
Vader, I truly respect you for your ability to show humility.

Heh, thanks. :p

I try to go by the rule that if you're right, you're right and if you're wrong, you're wrong.

Lex
16 Aug 2006, 22:09
Yes, and your ability to follow through with that doctrine is commendable.

I feel like I should add more to this post, but I don't have anything more to add other than this.

AndrewTaylor
16 Aug 2006, 23:03
Am I the only person here slightly worried that he cites a videogame as a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

Seems to me that if you prioritise things that way around then the relationship had bigger problems than distance.

M3ntal
16 Aug 2006, 23:56
Here are my opinions, given that i don't have any in-depth knowledge of the situation and am going entirely on what you wrote:

Katie, Sapir, and Kristen are all people you have met online. No matter how often/much/deeply you talk to someone online, you are only seeing that part of their personality that is visible when they are in the frame of mind to socialise on the internet. Besides that, Katie and Sapir would require some drastic life changes, and Kristen sounds either unreliable or uninterested.

I believe that ex-girlfriends generally should be moved on from. You split up with them / they split up with you for a reason, and that reason is more likely than not going to re-occur if you get back together, so that discounts Rebecca and Madeleine. I realise you are in love with Madeleine - just as i also still love my ex - but i also love my current girlfriend. You will fall in love with other people during your life, possibly many, so don't waste time dwelling on the fact you love someone who is unavailable. The science of love is an interesting subject in itself but i can discuss that with you on MSN at some point rather than clogging up this already lengthy post ;).

The "new girls", such as Kait, i reckon would be your best bet other than Pierre. You do not know them that well yet, and one could possibly turn out to be The One. Conversely, your feelings for Kait at the moment may possibly be more to do with the fact she is new and exciting, and you don't already know everything about her, than anything else. Your call.

The reason i say Pierre is that you give the impression that he is an integral part of your life that you could not do without, and the others aren't. You obviously have a lot of respect for him, which is very important, and if he also has that same respect for you then i say you've already found your soul mate. The fact you have crossed the "gender barrier" for this relationship says a lot.

One thing i will say is that you are never going to get the same experiences with a guy as with a girl, and vice-versa. Granted everyone is different, but male and female are vastly different. If your relationship with Pierre is a "one off", then this won't be such an issue, but you may find yourself physically craving whichever gender you don't pick your partner from. This could cause serious problems in a relationship you intend to be long term, and you will have to evaluate whether you can simply curb this craving, or whether your partner can handle allowing you to satisfy it (possibly with their inclusion).

Feel free to disregard anything i've said, as i am mostly guessing here :P.

Lex
17 Aug 2006, 00:49
Liam, that is the best advisory count I've heard or read about my situation, seriously. I completely agree with everything you've said.

Your bit about the re-occurance of bad split-up reasons is something I hadn't contemplated much, but it is a very valid point. Getting back together with Madeleine sure would be wonderful, but the same thing could happen.

Regarding Pierre: yes, I do respect him the most of anyone, but he is also hard to deal with, due to his extreme cynicism regarding everything (including me). He will utter the deepest insults I've ever heard, though I know, because it's him, that he doesn't mean them. He does the same for many things; really powerful, indirect insults. However, sometimes they really get to me. At first, I befriended him because everything he said was extremely cynical and hilarious. He is a comic genius, but he doesn't think of himself that way. He will lie on my bed, wide awake but motionless, for hours on end. He analyzes everything in the most different ways from anyone I've met. I'm using extreme words (e.g. "anyone" rather than "most people") here because I actually mean them. His extreme personality is unlike anyone I've met. I'm trying to cram too many thoughts about him into one paragraph. Maybe I should make a proper description of him some time. Also, physical love with him isn't nearly as exciting for me as with a female (though it is still exciting).

I don't feel like typing any more of this post right now. I will type more in later posts. I can't tell everything at once.

Lex
20 Aug 2006, 18:57
Update!:

Sonia Laposi hosted an all-night party last night, and it was really amazing. I have decided which girl I want, and it is Sonia. Not only is she sexy, but she's smart and fun. I have been contemplating a lot about her. At the party, we really got together and connected. :) It really was the most fun party I've ever been to, with dancing and silly fun the entire night. It had no drugs (I'm so glad Sonia's friends are all great people!), and I knew a lot of people who were there already, since many of Sonia's friends are my friends also. Sonia and I kissed for the first time and we've started a beyond-friendship relationship! :)

I want to see Sonia as soon as possible again, and no more other girls, except for friendly hang-outs. I didn't realize she was so right for me until now. :)

SupSuper
20 Aug 2006, 20:26
I can tell your happiness by the excessive use of :) in your post. Congrats!

bonz
20 Aug 2006, 20:27
Sonia Laposi hosted an all-night party last night
Bah! :mad:
You rather go to parties of sexy girls than play computer games on the internet with strangers?
It had no drugs
That must have been one lame party.
You probably were blinded by love and didn't see the obvious. :)

AndrewTaylor
20 Aug 2006, 21:46
Drugs can add a lot to a party.

Once I was at a party and a load of friends-of-my-friends were smoking something noxious in the front room, and I was cunningly chatting up the athsmatic girl in the kitchen who had nobody else to talk to. I'm so clever.

Oddly enough, a week later I was at uni clicking around, and I clicked a link from the University home page marked "student diaries" and immediately saw hers. I live a strange and contrived life sometimes.

Vader
20 Aug 2006, 22:02
I'm so clever.

If you're so clever you'd have gone into the front room and got yourself some free drug abuse ;)

AndrewTaylor
20 Aug 2006, 22:45
If you're so clever you'd have gone into the front room and got yourself some free drug abuse ;)
Hey, if I'm getting stoned for the first time I'm damn well doing it some place I know how to walk home from. I've woken up once too often at 7AM in some random house with no idea when or how I'll get to work.

Vader
20 Aug 2006, 23:18
That's one of the best bits!

Lex
21 Aug 2006, 00:50
With the friends who were there, they were so open-minded that drugs didn't matter. ;) Sure, I like to smoke pot once in a while, but when you're with the right people, you really don't need to to have a great time (Not that I don't think pot can really enhances a good time. It can just become the focus instead of just an enhancement.). However, to be honest, I did drink a couple shots of vodka, as did some others.

Blinx
23 Aug 2006, 21:14
I smoked pot before.

Bad, bad idea during school. I was completely mind buggered in my Physics lesson. Luckily the teacher didn't notice.

But anyway, Lex. Your bisexual? Intresting. I've always been pretty straight. I'm comfortable enought with my own sexuality to be able to judge other men's looks etc. Not that I feel the physical desire for them. I can just tell why a woman would choose them over another less attractive person.

You seem to have an active nightlife, I congratulate you on that. Sonia seems to be what you require at the moment, someone fresh and exciting that will tell you that your sexy. Which in my opinion is quite important after coming out of a relationship. After being dumped I tend to lose all confidense and I pretty much need someone to tell me otherwise.
I'd stick with Sonia. Your physically attracted to her and you mentally connect with her. Integral points to a relationship. Wherever she has the ability to 'commit'...is another future post all together. ;)

If anybody is intrested in my sex life then I'll inform you that it's going very well. My girlfriend and I have been going out for about five months. I love her and she loves me. And judging by what's happened in the past (to summarise, I foolishly dumped her because I was given the inclination that this other girl liked me. I asked her back out, with her to discover WHY I actually dumped her 3 weeks into going out again. But to balance it out I guess, her father has threatened me, face to face, and it seems most boyfriends would be put off by that. But I wasn't). Sex is on the cards, but we're taking it slow, there's no point rushing. We're both deeply in love so the urgency of sex is much lower. We're planning "stage three" (PM me for a meaning if you wish) and it's simply a matter of "where" and "when". It certainly looks promising, she texted me asking me "what would I have I said if she asked if she could give me a BJ?". To which I replied "Yes, depending on where and when".

Looks good, no?

Lex
23 Aug 2006, 21:41
Hehe. That sounds good, Blinx. However, you didn't tell us much about your relationship other than sexuality, though I'm sure there's a lot to it.

In other news, I emailed Sonia asking if she wants to come over and watch a movie I haven't seen yet with me this Friday. The film is "Whisper Of The Heart", and it looks like it'd be pretty darn good, from the IMDb info. She hasn't gotten back to me yet.

Blinx
24 Aug 2006, 10:11
Hmm. This calls for an equation.

Alex + Sonia + Good movie = Fondoodling.

Yeah there is more to it Lex, but seeing as we were talking more about sex in the past few posts then I thought i'd stick to that theme. :p

Sadly, because of her brother being ill and all, we have seen each other...three times in the past six weeks? It's beginning to seriously depress me. But it's kinda good, seeing as everytime we see each other, whatever we decide to do turns out to be fun and gives us a chance to be alone. The only way we can communicate really is by text. And because she's in the hospital so much, she has to turn off her phone, so we can't communicate.

She told me last night that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I hope it does. Don't dismiss it for youthful optimism. Because I really love her, and would stay with her.

Lex
26 Aug 2006, 07:54
Sonia and I got together on Friday! She's so wonderful! Here's what happened.:

First, she biked to uptown Waterloo, where we walked around at the Buskers Carnival which happened to be going on. We discussed how we both agreed that the performers (acrobats at the carnival) would be better if they didn't announce what they were going to do, but rather, just did them. Eventually, I bought a sub from Subway and offered to buy her one (because I'm insanely rich (for me) (I found I have over $2500! When I went to look at my bank balance, I was expecting to have roughly $1200!) now due to my job at the University!), but she said she wasn't hungry. We were then about to start walking home, when she saw a [slightly retarded, in my opinion] friend of hers walking around the carnival. He started talking to us and it ended up taking a little over an hour, which is really unfortunate, as it was cutting into my time with Sonia (though it didn't matter in the end :)).

Sonia and I started went to get her bike, then she rode it alongside me walking home. When we got to my place, she commented on how nice (friendly and beautiful) the neighbourhood looked, and how quaint my little place looked. We went inside and I was a little afraid my room wouldn't smell very nice, but I asked her if it smelled bad, and she said, "No, it smells like you!" and smiled.

The layout in my room allows lying or sitting on my bed and watching video on the PC monitor. We watched Whisper Of The Heart (a Studio Ghibli film; in Japanese with subtitles) together, and it turned out to be the ultimate date movie! Really, it's a sweet Japanese love story. Sonia and I both loved it, and I got to cuddle with her through the whole movie. Up to this point, there hadn't been any kissing or "fondoodling" between her or I, but after the movie, the theme song from the movie (strangely enough, a John Denver song entitled "Country Road") started playing again and Sonia excitedly got up and asked me, "How does someone dance to this song!?" We held each other closely and tried to figure out how to dance to it! We ended up just dancing really closely, then stopping dancing when the song ended and just holding each other. That's when the kissing began. It was slow at first, then got quite intense and passionate. Eventually, we hit the bed and flopped down together, me on top of her. It is certainly dazzling to look into the eyes of a beautiful girl from above, and be allowed to kiss them, look, kiss them, look. :)

She started the sexual part. She started stroking my 'front' which was 'excited'. I'm not sure if I should go into too much detail on the Team17 forum as I don't know the rules on explicit posts here. Anyway, it didn't end up turning into intercourse, because she is a virgin and wants to keep herself that way for some time "important", which I totally respect. However, she let me find and suck on her nipple, which was perfectly-formed, and there was a little more I probably shouldn't get into the details of, though I'd be perfectly willing to.

She ended up going home after that because she had a deadline to meet. It was a spectacular time and I fell asleep, having sexy, delightful dreams for many hours. Now I've just awoken and am writing this post. Now I'm posting it!

Pigbuster
26 Aug 2006, 08:03
Ah, Lex. You are the wind beneath the hot air balloon of love.
...
Can you teach me how to KISS A WOMEN?
I tried it once but I think I took out an EYE.

M3ntal
26 Aug 2006, 08:17
Haha, good one Lex :).

Pigbuster - aim for the lips, keep nose to the side ;).

Lex
26 Aug 2006, 08:17
It's actually very simple if you are passive with your tongue. Do not inject your tongue into her mouth too much. Instead, let her come to you. Feel intuitively when it would be a good time to taste the inside of her mouth. Lips-only kisses can also be very passionate, if done softly-and-firmly enough, with the right length of time. If you aren't kissing too agressively with your mouth, you will probably find you and she will enjoy it quite a lot. Also, stroking her head (behind the ear, the back of her head, and her jaw) while kissing certainly adds to the feeling.

I don't think I'm an authority on kissing, but I have had good kisses and bad kisses in my time.

Blinx
26 Aug 2006, 13:12
Lex. You used my word. :D *patents "fondoodling" under authority of Lex and Gar*

Hehe. You sly dawg Lex. ;) Congratulations. Your a good example to the rest of us on the forum. lol

On kissing, effectively do what Lex said. I tend to tease my girlfriend sometimes, kissing her very gently and backing off (not too much, hovering almost), which makes her go crazy with desire. Resulting in myself being pinned against the wall in a passionate kiss. Gotta love a "dominatrix" ;) lol.

AndrewTaylor
26 Aug 2006, 15:40
It's actually very simple if you are passive with your tongue. Do not inject your tongue into her mouth too much. Instead, let her come to you. Feel intuitively when it would be a good time to taste the inside of her mouth. Lips-only kisses can also be very passionate, if done softly-and-firmly enough, with the right length of time. If you aren't kissing too agressively with your mouth, you will probably find you and she will enjoy it quite a lot. Also, stroking her head (behind the ear, the back of her head, and her jaw) while kissing certainly adds to the feeling.
I wish the last girl I kissed had read that.

She was bloody mental. She kissed like she'd lost a contact lens or something down my throat and badly wanted it back. And good God, did she have fingernails. I'm guessing she didn't kiss a lot of guys and just went hell-for-leather when she got the chance.

In fact, no, I don't think that's it at all. I think she was some kind of X-Files type mutant who had no saliva glands of her own and had to harvest it from men in clubs. I swear, I had to keep stopping for a drink my mouth was so dry. It shouldn't be possible to dry someone's mouth out using only your tongue, surely?

SupSuper
26 Aug 2006, 16:39
I have to say something...

Sup's Relationship Stats
Knowledge: 81.2
Experience: -98.6
Envy: 100.0

Other than that, ummm... congratulations once again. :p

Blinx
26 Aug 2006, 16:42
I wish the last girl I kissed had read that.

She was bloody mental. She kissed like she'd lost a contact lens or something down my throat and badly wanted it back. And good God, did she have fingernails. I'm guessing she didn't kiss a lot of guys and just went hell-for-leather when she got the chance.

In fact, no, I don't think that's it at all. I think she was some kind of X-Files type mutant who had no saliva glands of her own and had to harvest it from men in clubs. I swear, I had to keep stopping for a drink my mouth was so dry. It shouldn't be possible to dry someone's mouth out using only your tongue, surely?Maybe her tongue was made out of a sponge like material? O_o Yeah, I don't like girls who kiss like that. Passionate and Brutal are a world apart. The only thing worse are girls that keep doing the same thing, over and over again. My first kiss with a girl consisted of her sliding her tougue in my mouth in some sort of 4/4 rythym. Constantly. I got frustrated one time and just stuck my tougue in completely. Evil yes, but it surprised her somewhat. :p

Paul.Power
27 Aug 2006, 00:04
I have to say something...

Sup's Relationship Stats
Knowledge: 81.2
Experience: -98.6
Envy: 100.0

Other than that, ummm... congratulations once again. :pI think my figures are something like that, except maybe knock something off the first and last scores.

Xinos
27 Aug 2006, 12:31
I smoked pot before.

Bad, bad idea during school. I was completely mind buggered in my Physics lesson. Luckily the teacher didn't notice.

It's never a good idea in a situation where there is people you don't want to notice. Nothing like the rush of fear when a family member suddenly knocks on your door. ;)

Blinx
27 Aug 2006, 12:36
Yeah.
"Knock Knock"
"Oh ****, oh ****!"
"Hide the stash!"
"Where?"
"Underneath the bed!"
*carpet catches fire*
*noxious fumes*

Lex
29 Aug 2006, 17:37
I'm going to another party! It'll be hosted by Andrey, an awesome Russian guy I met at Sonia's party! Sonia and Tonya* were both invited, and I'm sure they'll both be there. It's got to be wondrous, since it will have many of the who attended Sonia's! Also, Andrey invited not-as-many people, so it'll be smaller and closer, which is definitely positive, imo. I'll bring my music this time, as I forgot to bring it to Sonia's, and we had a serious lack of losing ourselves in the Chemical Brothers' and (the) Prodigy's music. Hmm. I guess the music we had was good enough though.

* Tonya is Sonia's best friend who I introduced Sonia to about a year ago. I was in love with Tonya for a couple years, literally. She was my girlfriend for a year in 2003, and I stayed as her "friend" for half a year after that (though I was still madly in love with her), then she moved to Switzerland for a year. After that, she and I got back together, but she got annoyed at my coming-ons and we had a rough conversation after which we stopped talking to each other for a long time. However, she attended Sonia's recent party. I thought it would be really awkward, but it wasn't at all and the first thing that happened when I arrived at the party was her running up to me, saying "Aleeeex!" and hugging me. In spin-the-bottle (which we all played for crazy fun), Tonya and I kissed 3 times, and it was really wonderful. I missed that. Anyway, get back to reading the main part of the post, if you haven't already read it.

Lex
29 Aug 2006, 17:43
ROFL! About 1 minute after I posted the above post, I got the following email entitled "Sorry party cancelled":Hi people,

Sorry I messed up my schedule- I have to leave tomorrow, early in the morning and haven't packed anything yet. And there are still some arrangements to make..
Please phone those who don't check e-mails often.

It was a pleasure to meet you all!
Have fun and maybe we meet in Germany some day!

AndreyThat's too bad! The party was for later today, too! Well, I guess that gives me more time to sleep today. Haha. I have a crazy day-night-switched sleeping schedule.

SupSuper
30 Aug 2006, 00:56
I had a serious lack of losing ourselves in the Chemical Brothers' and (the) Prodigy's music. Hmm. I guess the music we had was good enough though.Prodigy music is awesome!

Sorry, had to say it. :)

Lex
30 Aug 2006, 04:21
I obviously agree, and am perfectly okay with you saying that. :p

Star Worms
25 Oct 2006, 17:35
Sarah has said again that she's thinking of dumping James and asked for my opinion. Now I don't want to sound like a selfish git and bluntly say that she should dump him (but she should). I'm not sure if she's hinting at anything between us either, because she flirts a bit anyway.

I've just got to hope that she'll do the right thing and dump him but I wish she'd do it soon so I don't have this drilling in my head all the time.

I'm thinking that she wants to dump James and go out with me but isn't sure if I'd go out with her if she'd dump him so isn't sure if she should risk the relationship that she's got, if that makes sense. She's shown me quite a lot of messages and talked about him ****ing her off, some of which I think have only been seen by me. Perhaps she was trying to provoke a reaction from me to see if I was interested in her or something? So confusing......

SupSuper
25 Oct 2006, 20:25
Well girls are a puzzle.

My logical advice would be to tell her to dump him but back it up with good reasoning, and maybe some interest if you're sure about it. You don't want her blaming you for anything, so make sure she sees it as friendly advice and not selfishness. As long as you back up your opinion well (i.e. "you shouldn't put up with that, don't let him **** you around, etc."), you should be fine.

If she goes through with it, there's nothing stopping you then.

Lex
25 Oct 2006, 21:13
Sarah has said again that she's thinking of dumping James and asked for my opinion. Now I don't want to sound like a selfish git and bluntly say that she should dump him (but she should).There's nothing selfish about saying what you honestly believe would be best for her. If that's in your favour, that's an added bonus, not the basis of your advice. Do her and yourself a favour and tell her how you feel. You really don't have anything to lose here by telling her. I've found that great honesty provokes great emotional intimacy, which is most-often very good if the other party is intelligent.

Star Worms
1 Nov 2006, 22:24
OK well she's clearly not sure what to do - it's obviously a big decision for her. Do you think I should tell her how I feel or do you think that would just kill my chances? Main problem is that I wouldn't be able to tell her face to face with me being at uni and all. Unless she comes up for my birthday that is, but that's in December. There's no guarantee that she'll come up and an Xmas party isn't exactly the right time to tell her, if she's going out with James.

Lex
2 Nov 2006, 05:27
Read the post above yours. I stand by that advice for this situation. :) Don't worry about telling her face to face. There are all sorts of communication mediums. Actually, I believe that telling her in an email she can allow to soak into herself and you can have time to think about exactly what you want to say would be a good idea.

Star Worms
6 Nov 2006, 20:20
Well I was going to tell her but I asked how the relationship was going and she said "and not planning on ending it at the mo" so didn't feel it was the right time.

Lex
13 Nov 2006, 14:15
http://img329.imageshack.us/img329/9639/gmaillaundrymunchkinsbv9.png
http://img165.imageshack.us/img165/4631/gmailsomeveryinterestinbx8.png

Yesterday, I sent Madeleine two emails. She responded to them. These screenshots are to give you an overview of how my relationship is with Madeleine currently.

SupSuper
13 Nov 2006, 18:41
...the more I try to figure you out, the more bizarre you seem.

Star Worms
4 Dec 2006, 01:14
Sarah's split up with James (a week before she comes up). Don't want to get my hopes up but maybe things will work out after all?:-/

FutureWorm
4 Dec 2006, 02:22
http://img329.imageshack.us/img329/9639/gmaillaundrymunchkinsbv9.png

Superkawaii? You disappoint me.

Lex
5 Dec 2006, 01:42
FutureWorm, being disappointed is not "cool". It's better to be excited and encouraging. :) Besides, reading beyond the first two words of something is encouraged if there are more than two words!Sarah's split up with James (a week before she comes up). Don't want to get my hopes up but maybe things will work out after all?:-/Maybe! It sounds like a good opportunity to stick your foot in the door!

FutureWorm
5 Dec 2006, 04:08
FutureWorm, being disappointed is not "cool". It's better to be excited and encouraging. :) Besides, reading beyond the first two words of something is encouraged if there are more than two words!

Fear not, I read the whole thing. I'm just bugging you.

SupSuper
5 Dec 2006, 11:37
Maybe! It sounds like a good opportunity to stick your foot in the door!Unless you end up with your foot squished. :p

Lex
13 Dec 2006, 14:44
I asked Sonia out on a date, and she's really busy with exams and school and stuff these days, but she said yes for when exams are over. :D When I asked her if she wanted to go out for dinner some time, she asked me, "Alex, are you asking me out on a date?", I said yes, and she said, "That's so sweet! Yes!" :D

I usually don't do the normal "ask girls out on dates", but I decided to this time because Sonia really likes the classic nice guy, which sort of intrigues me, because I've never really explored classic-modern courting rituals. ;) I usually just sort of "end up" kissing a girl, then hitting it off from there.